It’s how we feel about how we look, not just simply what we wear, that should be the most important focus choosing clothes.
This week I read a brilliantly written article by Laura Craik which asks questions such as; What is dressing our age? How do you know what suits you and why do we feel like we have nothing to wear?
A lack of confidence with the clothing choices available or a lack of confidence in our bodies?
We all have body hang ups to some degree or another. Young, old, tall, small, and every size there is. There is no such thing as perfection in looks, clothes or bodies. It’s how we feel about how we look, not just simply what we wear, that should be the most important focus choosing clothes.
I remember in my thirties holding open the door to the gym in Barbados at the Country Club where we stayed on many a trip before my own house was built, for a lovely older lady member. She said “Well done girls” to my friend Anne and I as we headed to the bar to have a G&T (for rehydration purposes obviously,) in the setting sun. She continued, “Make the most of it now, as once you get to my age you have to work twice as hard for twice as long to get the same results.” And she wasn’t referring to the G&T’s we were about to consume!
I remember thinking surely not! If I keep exercising my body won’t become soft, my muscle tone and definition will still be the same. And 15 years on – she was right. I am working twice as hard, for perhaps not half the result yet but I can see how it could happen. Where am I headed with this anecdote from my past?
I work one to one with successful women in their early 20’s and 30’s and I say to each and every one of them how amazing their bodies are. But I see myself, with that slightly disbelieving thought crossing their minds. Really? Yes really! If you are focusing on what you dislike about your body now – it only gets more complicated as you age, especially if you try to please fashion or perceived social norms.
Each and all of us are wonderfully unique and so is how we wear our clothes. When it starts to go off the track is when we buy what fashion dictates to us or listen to some other external influence, such as think you need to dress a certain way at a certain age, instead of what truly makes us come more alive and joyful when we wear it.
Even the colour analysis debate comes into play here and there were big chats going on behind the scenes again this week on the topic of colours and perceptions about what we can and can’t wear. Another set of rules created by a marketing concept that were meant to help but actually, women often find that they are stale and contrived, often wearing colours that yes may look pretty on them but if it’s not their style DNA or if the neckline is not flattering, no matter which colour it is, it’s never going to make them feel amazing wearing it.
My answer to all of this discussion – take the time to work on your Style DNA. I must ask the journalist for coffee and a chat next time I’m in London!
To close, using the same words as the article, but with a very important caveat.
Be true to your own style DNA.
“Age is nothing but a number. Wear whatever you fancy.”
PS - To read the article by Laura Craik click here.