We all have areas of our bodies that we are not so positive about, that’s real life. It’s hard to be full on 100% Body Positive, accepting every part of us.
I can safely say my Autumn/Winter season is well and truly underway. It’s all systems go on several fronts this week as I sit here in London penning this to you. Worked with a wonderful client yesterday getting her all set for the new season. Covering 16,342 steps or 7.3 miles in shops and streets of the big city, running around the stores finding great pieces for her to cherish for years.
This morning I had my haircut with the only man who can ‘tame my mane’. Mark is worth his weight in gold for looking after my very precious locks which I love to refer to as my mane, hence my expression ‘mane taming’ rather than haircut. I value what he does so much that I have in the past made trips to London from Guernsey just to have my hair cut by him! Ask my mum how many hairdressers I went through trying to find one who could actually work with my very awkward hair.
I recently came across the term “body neutrality” and I really like it. The whole “Body Positivity” movement started with great intentions and is still pure with its core messages. But it has for me now become dominated with pictures on social media of women in their underwear or very little clothing, with hashtags such as #backfat #cellulite and #tummyrolls. There is also the big debate surrounding the cover of Cosmopolitan magazine recently with Tess Holliday in a green swimsuit…
I absolutely encourage women to embrace all of their amazing body but also recognise that’s a huge and possibly unrealistic leap. Also, for some wonderful woman, it simply isn’t a concern of theirs. I work on the premise of focusing on three parts of your body that you like and love. Have more than three by all means but when choosing what to wear, let one or all of those be your focus. We all have areas of our bodies that we are not so positive about, that’s real life. It’s hard to be full on 100% Body Positive, accepting every part of us. This is why the term Body Neutrality appeals to me. It says, “it’s OK to have that mix of emotions, the sum of those, makes you body neutral”.
Another interpretation I have considered is that it would be hard for me to be body positive about the appearance of my legs. They are covered in very unsightly varicose veins, but my legs allow me to run, dance, walk, ride, and all manner of other things (like shop for others!) that bring me joy. I’m happy to wear long skirts, trousers or opaque tights, keeping them covered. They don’t physically hurt, just like back fat or cellulite don’t either but I have no desire to let those veins be seen, so I dress to conceal and the result is body neutral. I love them when covered up, I just don’t like them naked. I think that’s something with the right clothing choices we can all achieve. When you know the right clothes to wear the appearance of your body can change.
I’ve used the analogy between looking after your hair and looking after what you wear when chatting to clients. I wouldn’t dream of cutting my own hair – heck I go to the extreme of travelling to London to make sure an expert takes care of it! So we shouldn’t think twice about asking for help from a professional about what to wear. I’m not sure why we think we should know which clothes are best for us? Let an expert guide you! That’s my job and I love it!
Here's a link to the full article about Body Neutrality.